Study example, imitation model.
If is the parents only to know the lesson child, actually does not pay attention to own behavior, will not be inevitably able to train the civilization manner child.
A noted author narrated to the people occurs in an own childhood matter.
This writer settled down in childhood along with the parents in Canada, their neighbor's wife has died, left behind one less than 8 year-old young boy, in the village a good intention woman has given shelter to this alone and forsaken child.
This woman both poor and does not have the culture, but actually completely offers own compassion on this child body, looks after this child wholeheartedly, therefore the child also lives calculates happiness. But in the village children look down upon this child, this causes him to feel inferior very much.
One day, in the village children together are playing, nobody invites this child to attend the game, he stood on one side has cried, cried very much is sad.
Writer's mother passed by here, happen to saw this situation,（Related Articleshomemade star wars kids costumes Helped the child）, walked plays the full of enthusiasm children to these saying:Dear, you do this are incorrect, although he does not have mother, but also looks like you to need to love equally, needs to be joyful, you are both lovable and the good child, then you should stretch out the friendly affection both hands to pull him,Dota Heroes, lets him set up the life the confidence, lets him be brave, lives joyfully gets down.
Many years have passed by, this writer could not forget this matter, is mother's instruction causes him to understand that the human can help other people, can also damage and throw away other people, helps other people to be able to cause the human to be upward, but complained mutually can cause the human to be hesitant to advance.
Mother's short several words changed this writer in childhood to others' view, simultaneously has also laid down in his immature mind the seed which loves, will cause him to know the loving care in the future life, will encourage other people.
May see from this example, parents' teaching by personal example set up the good example for the child, has indicated the standard of conduct for theirs manner handling matters. But, in the life often will also have such matter: A child cannot leave the mother, therefore did not hope that the mother exits to treat with courtesy.
Has the telephone to ask the mother to exit, the child pleads the mother not to want to go, the mother when returns to the telephone said: I am not do not want to go, is only thinks not comfortably, therefore wants to stay at home. The mother said like this has no intention, but this kind lies after the behavior lets the child becomes accustomed to,kids clothing, he will also have words at fingertips and write with facility, bold application, therefore made the bad custom which the parents will lie imperceptibly to teach the child.
The psychology research indicated: The human in the socialized process, one of psychic mechanisms is the so-called approval function, but this kind of approval,kids clothing, first has an effect in the children and in the parents both sides reciprocity, namely the child imitates adult's conversation manner, and takes as a model.
As the parents, with it, does not stop painstakingly to the child rigid theorizing, is inferior to restrain the time under oneself, examines own words and deeds, improves own quality to do on diligently.
When we had understood truly teaches by example again in the rigid theorizing, is influenced by the surroundings the near Mohists black these truths, and infects the child by own good quality, when affects the child, we can achieve twice the result with half the effort on the raise child.
Therefore, the parents should raise their civilization manner consciousness diligently, if does not take own training, is impossible to enhance child's personal status.
Politeness displays in the daily life, so long as is the parents to be able to take seriously, sets an example, momentarily explains the request, insists according to the request to train the child, discovered that the child has the civilization manner behavior to point out and to give the correction promptly, like this can train the child to speak the civilization manner gradually the good custom.
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